Bye Bye Teenager

Well, after a long, hard weekend, the teenager is gone.  I couldn't have him here anymore, because he was becoming a threat to my family.  He was making ridiculous accusations about our family, and he was becoming very defiant.  We had to call the law Sunday night, and shortly after that, I packed him up and took him to his step-father.  I do not feel like a failure, because I did everything in my power to help that boy succeed in all areas of his life.  He chose to walk a different path.  You can't help someone that doesn't want to help themselves.  There was nothing more that could be done here.  My children were afraid to go to sleep at night, and I am not going to allow my children to live in fear.  Heck, even I was afraid to go to sleep at night.  He is a very vindictive person who will ruin you for no reason other than his anger.  The treatment center he was attending was not helping.  I don't know what else we could have done except waited until he hurt someone to send him to a youth detention center.  I think that would be a good place for him, but I was not waiting until someone got hurt.  He just needed to go.  Now my other children are having their meltdowns, because they hate change.  Everything will hopefully cool down over the next few days.  With him out of the house, the kids are not being tormented and called  names.  They did say they were glad he was gone, but any kind of change puts a strain on the family until the kids adjust.  This was a big loss for two of my children, because this was their biological brother.  Sadly, those were the two that he tormented the most.  Alexia took the brunt of his meanness and bullying.  I am glad to know that I can sleep without worrying about my kids now.  I wish him the best of luck where he is, but I do not expect him to grow in a positive way there.  I know he will turn back to the drugs, but that is out of my control now.  From this moment on, my focus will rest on the children that do belong to me.